My Unpopular Thoughts on Valentine’s Day

This year I’m reminded once again of the deep hate people have for Valentine’s Day… the other day I Googled “anti-Valentine’s day” and the first couple of posts included: 

  • Singles Awareness Day
  • How to throw an anti-V-day party
  • gift ideas for those who despise V-day, etc. 

It’s ironic to me that a day all about love gets more criticism than a day focused on death (Halloween – which we won’t get into today). 

Since I was a little girl in elementary school, I always looked forward to Valentine’s Day. It was the one day out of the year that my parents allowed me to go out and buy things for the other kids in my class. And even though I did not have many friends, I was so happy to pick out cards and candy to give to my fellow peers. After we got home with our Valentine’s, I remember sitting down with a list of every students name and starting to write out each persons name on a card. 

As I got older, there was a certain age where giving out Valentine’s wasn’t the norm anymore. It turned into something that was only special for those in-love, or those in a relationship. Throughout middle school and high school I never had a boyfriend or was in any sort of relationship. Because of this, there were times where I got sad, especially around Valentine’s Day because I didn’t have someone to share it with. 

“Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.”

1 John‬ ‭4:7-10‬ ‭

Instead of choosing to hate the holiday, I decided to make it about giving to my family. So every year I would go out and buy a card for each member of my family. In the card I would write out everything I love about them and how much I appreciated them. 

Now that I’m married and have someone to share this day with, I decided I still want to send cards to my family. With that being said, I am not trying to brag but say that this day does not have to be terrible. You don’t have to spend it bashing on your past boyfriends or girlfriends. You don’t even have to spend a lot of money, or any money at all.

If God is love, and we have the opportunity in this county to solely focus on love, I believe we should take it and use it to our advantage. As believers, we are called to be the light of the world, to share the love and hope of Jesus to everyone around us. This Valentine’s Day, and every day, I hope you take the time to show your appreciation to those in your life, regardless of your relationship status. 

Love with an unconditional, everlasting, love. Love like St. Valentine loved – a man who sacrificed his life for the sake of putting others before himself. 


Xo, Ari

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